Monday, May 14, 2007



Listen.....

Hey ppl...
LOL yes Im sorry I give lame reasons like I don't have a camera and stop blogging for months...its all my bloody fault. But today's post have nothing to do with cooking. It is something that I would really like to share with all of you, something that hit me and it does make full sense...and it makes me realise something important that no one really tells me. Yes this book
(chichken soup) we have all heard about, and it is old school but it serve the purpose of self help and I felt really lucky to come across this book.
And yes! this bloody poem is so thoughful that I have actually get out of my warm and comfy bed at 5am in the morning to type this out. I can't believe I am doing this but I felt that if I don't do this now I would nvr get myself to do it sometime later and worse still forgotten about it! It will be a shame if you guys don't get to read it. As the saying goes, things are better when shared!!! hehehehe enjoy!

AND YES AGAIN it is lengthy but it is worth your time!!!!!!


PLEASE LISTEN

When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving me advice,
you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why
I shouldn't feel that way,
you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask yo to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something
to solve my problem,
you have failed me,
strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I ask is that you listen.
DOn't talk or do- just hear me.
Advise is cheap; 20 cents will get
you both Dear Abby and Billy Graham
in the same newspaper.
And I can do for myself; I am not helpless.
Maybe discouraged and faltering,
but not helpless.
WHen you do something for me that I can
and need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and inadequancy.
But when you accept as a simple fact
that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince
you and get a bout this business
of understanding what's behind
this irrational feeling.
And when that's clear, the answer are obvious and I don't need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when
we understand what's behind them.
Perhaps that's why prayer works, sometimes,
for some people- because God is mute,
and he doesn't give advice or try
to fix things.
God just listen and lets you work it out for yourself.
So please listen, and hear me out.
And if you want to talk, wait a minute
for your turn- and I will listen to you.

Author Unknown

{Taken from Chicken Soup for the teenage soul, pg46-47 "On friendship"}

LOL yea it is lame that all the referensing is up...I guess this is what Uni do to you when ur tru with it....Often a time when people talk to us and tell us thier problems, we usually can't wait to throw in a few advise and tell them what is good for them. True enough we love them or like them as our friend, thats why we try to solve and give some advice, but after reading this poem I only realise that maybe we are often trying to show how smart ourselves is or better than the person when it comes to handling the stuff they are facing. This is a really valuable lesson indeed.....and yes to all my buddies....from now on I will try to shut the f***k up and listen....no more miss know it all shit and yea........I hope I will be a better and improve friend to you all!!! heheheheh
Cheers!
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Posted by Cowcanfly at Monday, May 14, 2007